My man and we

He is a small build guy, who is tanned and skinny. His initial is TPK, which explains why my email address is tpktpl (please say you know what tpl is...) He is of average height, under 1.7 m (I think) and to some people, you may think that he is short.. I once asked him this question but he replied to say, "When you lean over, the height is just nice, it is more comfortable for you." And we were strolling along the East Coast beach at night :)

Correction - TPK says he is 1.72m.. he is angry when I say he is 1.70m.. for the man's ego, please 'delete' the previous information...

We did not started the usual way that many people do... in fact, before we got together as an item, we had exchanged less than ten sentences face-to-face, never gone out together except for a lunch which a mutual friend arranged. We dated online, via icq and then moved on to msn. He was in UK doing his student exchange programme while I was in Singapore studying for my last exam in NUS.. We were separated by almost 12 h and I would always informed him of how lovely the moon looked like and he would go and see the same moon 12 h later at his side. Because it is expensive to talk via IDD call, I had to scout around for the most worth it IDD calling card, $20 for 300min and this card couldn't be found at most money-changer.. I first found it at Clementi Town Centre and I had to take almost 1.5h to go and buy the card. Luckily, I managed to find another money-changer in Chinatown which sold the same card and the journey took 40min.

We would talk on the phone when the situation permits, ie when I have the card because it is free incoming calls for him at his UK hostel. He could call over but it will be very expensive because one pound is about S$3.00. But when we talked, it will be really late in sg time and it will be really early at his side, just before he go for his morning lectures.

I remembered there was one night when I had a really bad nightmare and I smsed him in the middle of the night. He called and asked me if I was ok and I was so touched... I could feel his concern even through the phone.. that was the first few sweetest things he did...

Then he would sms me every night before he go to sleep so that when I opened my eyes, the first thing I see would be his sms greeting me. They lit up the morning in a bright sunshine way and taking the 50min bus ride to NUS on bus 10 seemed such an enjoyable experience everyday.

When he went around touring in UK, looking for all the Hard Rock Cafes, I would stay by my Nokia 8210 and jumped whenever the sms came in. Because, I told him, your sms is the only way I can be sure you are still safe at the other side of the world. He was travelling isn't it so he had no access to Internet and so no communications at all. I had heard of so many stories of road accidents and I was worried that something will happen to him.

So throughout our 3 months (I think so) of sms dating, when he came back to Singapore, his phone bill was a whopping S$800-900. Haha. But not bad la, he won over a sweet and caring gf, who is yours sincerely... :D

So for the past 4 years, we communicated via sms and msn more than over phone. We don't call each other unless it is really urgent. But, we will always sms each other.

He is a down-to-earth man, very disciplined and very hardworking. In front of me and his sister, he is like a small boy who will 'teh' to us. In front of his mother, he is fierce. In front of his friends, he is a joyful and spontaneous person. Because he belongs to the 'permanent head damage' club (PhD), sometimes he talked to his friends about politics and other highly intellectual topics. But he will still be sweet and make sure that I don't feel bored occasionally by turning and looking at me ;)

He may seemed dull but I know I am really fortunate that he is mine. Of course there are times when I really hate him to the core but most of the time, I still love him.. Haha..

He had a female friend who was bullied by her bf's friends and she called and cried to him. He was so angry with that bf. I asked him what if his friends bullied me too. He said he will protect me and scold them for me... ;)

He brought light sticks once when we went for a holiday. When I came out of shower, I saw the words 'I love U' on the floor, formed by the light sticks...

We even sat in the car, eating Mac nuggets and fries while we watched the rain poured outside at the West Coast MacDonald car park...

There was once when he had to brake his car because of the red light at the traffic camera junction. Due to inertia, I jerked forward and he used his hand to break my jerk. He turned and said sorry... Such a simple gesture, but I was so moved, because I knew he will protect me.

Whenever he drives me home, I will turn and look at him occasionally. Funny, even if it is just a small tilt of my head, he will be able to detect and he will make a funny face at me. He will change to another funny face when I turned over a second time, a third or even a forth... If I sat the the back of the car when his mother is in the front passenger seat, we will steal occasional glances at each other too. Haha.

Last year's Christmas Eve, we were in Orchard with my family. There were many people and with a twist of time and place, we ended up in bus 36. There was the unmistaken jam in Orchard but the bus was empty, only with the few of us plus less than three other people. When the clock struck 12midnight, we saw the cheering from the party crowds outside and inside the bus, it was a peaceful Christmas. We kissed and said Merry Christmas and really, there aren't any better Christmas than last year's. Peaceful and heart-warming, with your loved ones just beside you...

Of course, not to mention, we are the happy parents to many animals. From Phant Phant, Nessie, Hardy, Giraffe, Ah-Bian, Baby, Mao Mao, Xiao Pang, Xiao Fei, Eeyore, Monkey to Xiao Ding Dang, Ding Ding, Dang Dang, Xiao Fei Fei, Da Tou, another Giraffe, Washy, Monty, Smiley, Ohoh, Xiao Mao, Xiao Fen, Nemo. They are taking up so much space on our beds that we are really fighting for space! He even said he wants to build a house for all animals to stay in next time we have a house =.=! speechless!! Our smses are also in animal language... normal people won't understand our lingo ;)

Sometimes, even though we had spent the weekend together, I will still not bear to see him go home. Somehow, time is never enough being with him. Why?

Maybe then that is what people call love.......

To those who are in love, we are the fortunate ones. Cherish our partner and create fond and heart warming memories together. Small gestures and words may look and sound silly at that split second, but when looked from a different perspective, it is another way of him/her telling you he/she loves you and cares about you.

To those who are still looking for love, love comes knocking on your door at weird timing and way. God never leaves out anyone.